Confessions of a Witch Girl: Emotional Pokémon

I have been sitting with the idea for quite some time that our own projection and labels of our emotions and experiences creates more than half the battle of our existence.

Somewhere along the way we were taught, or we decided, or we were lead to believe, that the only emotion worthy to inhabit our bodies is happiness or love.

We have gone so far as to run and resist and shrink away from the dubbed more ‘difficult’ emotions such as pain, fear, shame, avoidance, confrontation… in fact if you take a step back and examine your own life, you will see this is true.

Every decision we make is based around the  emotions we are feeling in the moments that make up our days.

This notion became so apparent to me when reading a well known book on sales called ‘Never split the difference’.

In the book the author has you step back and examine the conversations that take place within a sales scenario. What became very apparent to me while reading the book is that a sales conversation will most likely (especially if it is on its way to being successful) have moments of extreme discomfort, for both the sales person and the client.

As the sales person it is imperative to embrace this discomfort and shift your perception of what it means. Discomfort is positive. It means you are shifting an opinion, a preconception of the other party.

Of course that is uncomfortable.

You need to be able to sit with that emotion and remove the negative connotation that we associate with it.

Discomfort does not feel like joy. It does not feel like peace. But that doesn’t mean it is ‘bad’ or ‘wrong’.

It just IS.

It just EXISTS.

Let it exist.

Let it be itself.

Let it flow and form and evolve in to what it needs to evolve in to.

Perhaps it is our obsession with the need to push away our uncomfortable or ‘negative’ emotions that doesn’t allow us to allow their transformation and then shift in to a more evolved state.

Where and what would your emotions become if you relaxed in to them and let them transform?

Perhaps it is our constant need to control our internal landscape that causes our many blocks and painful habits, all formed as an imagined remedy to escape allowing our emotions to flow.

This may be a silly analogy but it is one that keeps appearing in the eye of my mind when I consider this.

Any 90s kid remembers Pokémon. I’m sure the generations after do too.

What always intrigued me about the characters is that they came in one form that existed as different versions as themselves.

For example one character can have four different stages it can transform in to, gaining more powers as it shifts in to each more powerful stage or card.

I found this so interesting as a child.

How can Pikachu be this cute cuddly mouse in stage one and be this ferocious, powerful, graceful being by stage 4? How are these the same being just at different points of their evolution?

Perhaps the same can be said for our emotions.

Maybe our negative emotions are just the stage one version of grace.

Perhaps our pain is simply the stage one version of our power.

Could it be that our constant need for comfort has kept us confined to the infancy of emotional stage one, and a simple release of the need for comfort could release us in to our most powerful potentials.