confessions of a witch girl: choices
Every day we are faced with a myriad of choices. What do we wear? What do we eat? How do we spend our time? Where do we go? Who do we love? What do we fear? Choice after choice is made over and over again throughout our days. Though these choices vary from seemingly innocent, ‘what should I eat for breakfast?’, to more complicated, ‘who do I love?’, they are all the same at their core. They are ours. How we answer them is up to us, it is within our control. The way in which we respond to our life’s choices ultimately will dictate how we spend our lives.
Our decisions are cumulative. If each day you choose to eat pancakes, greasy bacon, and buttery hash-browns for breakfast, odds are, over time, your body will reflect that choice. You may find your clothes become tighter and your over all fitness begins to suffer. With this choice unchecked for long enough, you may even find yourself with a heart full of plaque, and your life could even be cut shorter. Just from one seemingly innocent choice. The problem with life us is that we think we have time. We think each day is independent from the last, and we forget that the seemingly insignificant choice we made about our breakfast turns in to a exceedingly important one over time.
What is also significant is the choices we choose not to make. What we choose not to do. Each day we disregard our intuition, each day we disregard our dreams, each day we choose to spend in a relationship that no longer serves us… whether we like it or not, making a choice, or choosing not too, will impact our lives no matter which way you slice it. Life is one giant choice, made up of one hundred billion small ones. There is no way to avoid it, you are entirely responsible for the choices you make.
Now I am not saying that means choices are easy, just because you have the power to decide which one to make, perhaps the choices you face are painful, difficult, or even life dependant. Perhaps you are faced with two choices that each feel equally as impossible as the other. When we come up against such times, we must tune in to our intuition and seek the guidance that is always there for us. I truly believe we always know the right answer. We always know what choice to make, the issue is that we may not particularly like it.
Choices become easier to make once we set our sights on our goals. If we can create our own centers, our own inner core, the mission statement of our own life… then the choices we make become easier. If you can think up 3-5 statements about yourself, about the version of you that you are trying to become, then the structure within which you make your decisions becomes easier. If for example, you are trying to decide what to make for breakfast, and one of your self-statements is ‘I am fit, healthy, and I care about my body,’ then the choice becomes less difficult. You have parameters to work within, you are healthy. You are fit. The decisions you make through out your day reflect this self-statement.
If you have the self-statement, ‘I am wealthy and abundant, money flows easily to me,’ you will not settle at a position of employment where you feel your time is undervalued by the amount you are paid by your employer. Even if you find yourself in such a role, and you may have to take it for a time, you would be continuously searching for a new opportunity that feels more aligned with your self-statement.
Our self-statements thusly interact with our daily choices in either a positive or negative way. A negative way would be one that takes you farther away from who you want to be, where as a positive statement would be one that takes you closer to who you want to become. If you can decide who it is that you are, who it is that you came here to become, then you can make the choices that are in alignment with that version of you, and your life will change.
The difficulty presents when we have not taken the time to create these statements of self, when we leave too much room to chance and not enough emphasis on our role in the creation of our own realities through our consistent choices and behavior.
I strongly encourage you to take some time today to write down 3-5 self statements that really resonate with you. Allow these statements to become the pillars of your reality, of your self. When faced with decisions return to your self statements and examine if the choice you are about to make aligns with the statements you have created for yourself. I think you will find that the vision of how to get to your dream life will become a lot more clear and easy to follow.
